19 This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone
must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger;
20 for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.
How effective would your communication become if you were to engage these
three simple rules in every conversation you have?
You do not hear as well when your mouth is open. How much easier would it be
to truly listen and genuinely understand if you were to close your mouth and
open your ears and heart?
The rapid fire response is usually not a good response. It usually implies a
failure to comply with the first rule. It suggests that, while you should have
been listening, you were formulating your reply. What kind of impact do you
think taking the trigger off of your tongue will have on your future
Anger will turn any conversation into an argument. To approach a conversation
in anger is foolish. Wrath is often triggered by defensiveness. Defensiveness
usually stems from one or both parties breaking rules one or two. How many of
your conversations become ugly because you become angry?
By Jonathan L. Perz
From Expository Files 18.8;