The Biblical pattern of counseling
Requirements, qualifications and
prerequisites of the person being counseled
- Yes you
read it right: qualifications of the person being counseled!!!
- If a
person seeking counsel lacks these qualifications, then the entire thing
is a waste of time and they cannot be helped!
- This is
Biblical psychiatry, it is God's system of dealing with the mentally ill.
If someone does not qualify to be counseled in this system, their other
option is the devil's system: Chemical
psychiatry. We can only help qualified people!
counseling is unique in that there are qualifications, pre-requisites and
requirements of the one being concealed.
example it is a complete waste of time counseling someone won't act upon
your advice, is not willing to change, or is dishonest.
- The key
is that the person being counseled will always be asked to make changes.
They need to make these changes, even if the person being counseled
doesn't see the value in the changes.
needs to be a willingness to blindly make the changes on the basis of
faith in the experience and wisdom of the counselor.
A. Seek truth and be honest
- If you
are not really looking for truthful answers you won't find them.
and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find;
knock, and it will be opened to you. "For everyone who asks receives,
who seeks finds,
and to him who knocks it will be opened." Matthew 7:7-8
B. Be willing to change by taking
the advice given:
many psychologists does it take to change a light bulb? The answer: Only
one, but the light bulb has to really want to change. Many pastors, like
Carl, find this to be true with homosexuals. The number one criterion for
the success in crisis intervention is the desire of the homosexual person
to change. Without that, all the good intentions and techniques by the
counselor will have little effect." (J. D. Berkley, Called into
crisis, 1989, Vol. 18, p 103)
to change is the primary factor in success. For example 12 step
programs like AA have a 95% failure rate because none of the 12 steps
make any difference. The 5% who go sober for life are the one's who simply
set their minds to never drink alcohol again. The same is true for how to
stop smoking or dieting. Saying no to putting a cigarette or chocolate
bars in your mouth is the key to success, not some new "program or
zealous to change for good:
"Those whom I love, I reprove [telling someone they are wrong: Elencho] and discipline; therefore be zealous and repent." Revelation 3:19
righteous, godly living:
"instructing [long term parental guidance of a child to mold and modify
behaviour: paideuo] us
ungodliness and worldly desires
live sensibly, righteously and godly
in the present age," Titus 2:12
off old self, put on new self:
"and that you be renewed in the spirit of your mind, and put on the
new self, which in the likeness of God has been created in
righteousness and holiness of the truth." Ephesians 4:23-24 "and
have put on the new self who is being renewed to a true knowledge
according to the image of the One who created him" Colossians 3:10
C. Pray for personal wisdom
have the blessing of being able to ask God for wisdom!
- A person
who is mentally ill has a messed up life and lacks wisdom Pray!
of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without
reproach, and it will be given to him. But he must ask in faith without
any doubting, for the one who doubts is like the surf of the sea, driven
and tossed by the wind." James 1:5-6
D. Appreciation for the councilor
person being counseled better appreciate the time and energy being spent
- They are
drawing energy and resources of the counselor to no personal benefit. The
counselor is not getting paid. They have been asked to help as a good
samaritan who has randomly encountered a traffic accident. In this case
the accident is the messed up life of the one needing help!
we request of you, brethren, that you appreciate those who diligently labor among
you, and have charge over you in the Lord and give you instruction [verbal council to
put what is right and wrong into another's mind: nouthesia]" 1 Thessalonians 5:12
E. Humility and respect for
with Biblical Psychiatry system, the person being counseled seeks a person
of their choice to counsel them, the changes are they are going to select
someone they respect. However this is often not the case and other factors
are involved, including "political", factions and jealousies.
- Be warned
that sometimes a person will select you as their counselor because they
want to destroy you with themselves.
I, brethren, could not speak to you as to spiritual men, but as to men of
flesh, as to infants in Christ. I gave you milk to drink, not solid food;
for you were not yet able to receive it. Indeed, even now you are
not yet able," 1 Corinthians 3:1-2
- It is
important for the counselor to look for positive signs of these
requirements to be present in the person they are helping.
- If any of
these requirements are lacking in the one being counseled, success will be
to God. You certainly ought to "listen to your feelings" and be
honest about them. "When a person assumes responsibility for his
feelings," writes psychiatrist David Viscott, "he assumes
responsibility for his world." But don't stop there: Take time to listen
to God, and
receive His words of encouragement." (W. W. Wiersbe, Be obedient
1991, Gen 15:1)
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